We’ve made it through another (or your first!) semester at Barnard, and you know what that means: time to buckle down for that race to the finals finish line. I know that doing well in classes is important to people, myself included, but the pressure and stress present during this time of the year can be super overwhelming. With that in mind, here are some things I do when I want to calm down, take a break, or just do something other than study for a little bit:
Thanksgiving can be a restful break full of good food and loved ones. It can also be a stressful event full of head-butting with distant family members. In honor of this coming holiday… here are some tips for dealing with political conversation at the table on Turkey Day:
Remember, you do not have to argue with anyone if you don’t want to! But if you do, take lots of deep breaths, be patient, and pick your battles wisely. Be careful not to drain yourself.
If the conversation feels productive, that is wonderful and often you can learn something too!
If continuing feels stressful, feel free to disengage. Convincing your uncle Rudy on one issue or another will most likely not change the political landscape of America. Change the topic to the weather or pop culture or the sweet potato pie (see recipe below) and return to easy breezing. Or, impress the table with the etymology of the word turkey: http://nowiknow.com/how-turkey-got-its-name/
Or this fun turkey fact:
If Ben Franklin had his way, the turkey would be our national bird.
Take a moment to remember it took you time, energy, and other people’s patience and generosity to teach you what you know today. Doing this can give perspective and help as a reminder to be empathetic.
Find something that fills you with warmth and keep it close by. One example: put a great picture as your phone background. Here are some for your pleasure.
Channel your frustrated energy into making a rad dish! If you’re feeling angry and want to smash some things we recommend this killer mashed potato recipe:
Or this dope vegan chai sweet potato pie:
If you need to zone out and calm down, find an escape! Go on a walk. Visit a favorite place from your childhood. Watch a movie or TV show you love.
Watch this incredibly calming live feed video of an aquarium!
Eat well and be well! Happy Thanksgiving!
It’s a difficult time of year–people are gearing up for finals, trying to cram in as much as they can before Thanksgiving break, and generally feeling miserable about the finally-encroaching cold season. But you’re about to thank me for showing you exactly what you need in your academic life right now (or rather, you’ll thank my best friend and this document’s creator, Catherine Scott). Behold an automated paper title generator, or “Instant Conference Topic Generator”–all you need is the day and month you were born, and the first letter of your first name. Easy enough! If you don’t feel like doing it yourself because the thought of having to flex your brain muscles any more than you already are is overwhelming, check out the list below. The Peer Eds all sat down together and made a list of our own next paper titles. Here they are–enjoy the academic mockery, but also prepare yourself because these are actually really good.
- Rania: “The Real McCoy”: White Supremacy through the Lens of the Star Wars Prequels
- Amanda: “The Love that Dare not Speak its Name”: Eurocentrism through the Lens of Beyoncé’s “Lemonade”
- Kate: “Show Me the Money!”: Criminalization through the Lens of the Ashlee/Jessica Simpson Paradox
- Danielle: “Your Place or Mine?”: Marxism through the Lens of Cher’s Twitter
- Chantal: “Houston, We Have a Problem”: Capitalism through the Lens of Albus Dumbledore’s Closeted Homosexuality
- Simi: “The Whole Shebang”: Masculinity through the Lens of Rory Gilmore’s Controversial Love Life
- Cara: “Queer as a Three Dollar Bill”: the Patriarchy through the Lens of Albus Dumbledore’s Homosexuality
- Analisa: “Diamond in the Rough”: Criminalization through the Lens of Beyoncé’s “Lemonade”
- Allison: “Houston, We Have a Problem”: Globalization through the Lens of Beyoncé’s Lemonade
- Jaipreet: “Pick Your Poison”: Eurocentrism through the Lens of the “For Women” Category on PornHub
- Helen: “Queer as a Three Dollar Bill”: Capitalism through the Lens of Helga Pataky’s Difficult Life
- Sammy: “This Town’s Not Big Enough for the Two of Us”: Criminalization through the Lens of Rory Gilmore’s Controversial Love Life
- Rumana: “Finders Keepers, Losers Weepers”: The Space Time Compression through the Lens of the Star Wars Prequels
Now go write your own!
This past week has been stressful, emotional, and challenging. Whether your candidate won or lost, take some time to reevaluate how you participate in politics and practice self care. Below are some helpful tips to help you relax, get inspired, get distracted and/or organize.
- Create a list of all the things you are grateful for. By refocusing on the positives, you help your mind and body adjust to a happier and easier state of being.
- Try not to look at a screen for either 5, 10, or 20 minutes. The bright lights can at times be strenuous for our eyes, and at times the material we are consuming can be strenuous on our souls.
- Listen to your favorite type of music. Feel free to shake things out or be still – both are beneficial!
- Say five positive things about yourself. It’s easy to become critical of yourself, but once you take a step back you realize how amazing you are.
- Cry, laugh, smile, talk, mope, or whatever! Feeling your emotions fully is a wonderful and necessary thing. Take up as much time and space you need to be with your emotions because your feelings are valid!
- “When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” – Audre Lorde
- “Pies, ¿para qué los quiero si tengo alas para volar?” – Frida Kahlo
- “You don’t choose the time you live in, but you choose who you want to be. And how you want to think” – Grace Lee Boggs
- “When the world is silent, even one voice becomes powerful” – Malala Yousafzia
- “When you joyfully rebel against your circumstances, against mediocrity or negativity, you invite others into something really beautiful.” – Kid President
A list of organizations you can support
- National Latina Institute for Reproductive Health
- Trans Latina Coalition
- Campaign Zero
- American Civil Liberties Union
- New York City Alliance Against Sexual Assault
When I first came to Barnard, I was very eager to establish my new life on campus by showing my independence externally by exploring new body piercings and contemplating a tattoo. I have learnt so much from friends, siblings and my own reading about the many added benefits that piercings can have, including sexual pleasure! Here are a few bits of information that I have heard/found/experienced about body piercings and pleasure:
- According to Sex Info Online, “areas such as the tongue and nipple are very popular places to be pierced because of the extra stimulation they provide”(http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/body-piercing)
- I learnt that “genital piercings usually are not very painful and heal very quickly (usually within 2-3 weeks)” (http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/body-piercing).
Here are a couple interesting articles about body modification and queer, feminist empowerment:
There is so much out there and this is definitely an area I don’t feel super knowledgeable about, but am interested in learning more :).
Check out this awesome parody of Beyonce’s Formation made by folks at Lady Parts Justice League! The video is apart of a pro-abortion rights campaign, #BeBoldEndHyde–a call to overturn the Hyde Amendment and ensure that anyone in the US with federal health coverage has access to abortion care.
We hope the start of the new school year has been treating you well! But if you’re looking for some study tunes or dance breaks, our fresh out of the oven well woman spotify will have you kicking your feet. Every few weeks, we’ll have a peer-ed playlist with some of the songs we’ve been listening to. And keep your ears tuned for some blasts from the past (we’ve got a puberty playlist coming your way soon).
Here’s a roundup of some songs we’ve been listening to in September. Comment with your suggestions, and we’ll add ’em.